Do you wish you really knew how to find true love? Are you ready to try almost anything to find the man of your dreams? Are you tired of casual dating and ready to settle down with the right guy? Casual dating can be fun, but the time comes when you're ready to settle down with the guy you love and have a real future. If you feel that you've struck out when it comes to knowing how to find true love, start by answering a few questions from the experts:
How to seduce girls
Before I commence on what seducing a girl is and should be let me mention a number of things to you, yes I mean you reading this article the guy who really wants to know how to seduce girls like a fisherman lures and catches fishes. Before you ever think of seducing a girl let the following things be made clear to you.
1. Not every girl can be seduced or caught
Some girls are too full of themselves. Trying to seduce such girls is a waste of time (regardless of their looks and compunctment) as they are in a world of their own (totally unrealistic and problematic). They are better left to be on their own. In this class of girls are the gold digging, ass kissing, egotistical,
1. Not every girl can be seduced or caught
Some girls are too full of themselves. Trying to seduce such girls is a waste of time (regardless of their looks and compunctment) as they are in a world of their own (totally unrealistic and problematic). They are better left to be on their own. In this class of girls are the gold digging, ass kissing, egotistical,
How to win your girlfriend's heart
I make no claim to explaining the intricacies of the female mind. An encyclopedia might conceivably scratch the surface of the intriguing subject. However, it can be stated with some certainty that, as a rule:
Girlfriends admire at all time:
Good clothes, Good grooming, Self -confidence, Masculinity, Good manners, Good health.
Girlfriends admire at all time:
Good clothes, Good grooming, Self -confidence, Masculinity, Good manners, Good health.
Girlfriends Dislike:
-Conceit, Smutly humor, Swearing, Uncouthness, Effeminacy
-And since woman take great of such thing where as men are apt not to bother: halitosis and body odour.
7 ways To Wining Your Girlfriends Heart are:
How to win your boyfriend's heart
Men are perhaps more predictable in their likes and dislikes. Generally speaking:
Boyfriends like and Respect:
A healthy figure, Attractive but not theatrical clothes, Good grooming, Charm, Personality, Good manners, Femininity, Silence when the situation requires.
Boyfriends can’t stand:
Chatterboxes, Dabbing and wiping make-up in public, Over-demonstrativeness when people are looking, Any assumption that wedding bells are ringing simply because you have met twice.
Boyfriends like and Respect:
A healthy figure, Attractive but not theatrical clothes, Good grooming, Charm, Personality, Good manners, Femininity, Silence when the situation requires.
Boyfriends can’t stand:
Chatterboxes, Dabbing and wiping make-up in public, Over-demonstrativeness when people are looking, Any assumption that wedding bells are ringing simply because you have met twice.
6 ways of wining your boyfriends' heart are:
How to approach Girls
As you may already know, women are not the easiest creatures for most men to figure out. We all know that there are times when you are left scratching your head, wondering why women do the things they do.
You also know that being around beautiful women is much better than being around a bunch of guys. So, somewhere along the way, you have to learn what women respond to and how to create attraction. That is, IF you want to really succeed at getting the attention from women that you crave.
You also know that being around beautiful women is much better than being around a bunch of guys. So, somewhere along the way, you have to learn what women respond to and how to create attraction. That is, IF you want to really succeed at getting the attention from women that you crave.
How to date beautiful women
Have you ever thought that you could date a beautiful woman? I think that everybody has had this dream, this desire, but at some point in time, we give up all hopes that this will happen. You might start to thank, oh well, I just have to be a little more realistic in my goals and expectations. The funny thing is, you can just as easily attract and date beautiful women as you can an average looking girl.
Here are some important tips for men that would help them can date beautiful women:
How to Recover When Your Relationship Ends
When a love affair ends against your wishes it leaves many painful feelings. Research into common feelings following loss show that there is a fairly predictable pattern to these emotions. Of course, we are all different and the sequence of feelings may be different for you and indeed you may revisit some of them more than once. But just knowing that they common responses can be a comfort. You're not alone or going crazy.
Initially, the first reaction is often shock, an inability to take in what is being said. This shock leads to disbelief that the relationship is at an end. We simply cannot take in the enormity of what is happening.
Gradually as we begin to believe the situation anger sets in and we rage against what is happening to us. This stage often last quite a lot time and can be mixed with the next stage - guilt. At this stage we think 'If only I'd done that/if only I hadn't done this.. they'd still love me'. And because none of us is perfect there is always something we can choose to feel guilty about.
Then we begin bargaining, perhaps offering to behave differently if the loved one comes back to us, or offering something to God if the situation is reversed. But if this fails we can sink into low moods, a depression which can last some time before we gradually come out of it and accept that our life is now changed and start to look forward.
Sometimes, sadly, people get stuck at one of these stages. I remember someone telling me about her divorce. She was still very much at the angry stage and I assumed her break-up had been recent. But I couldn't have been more wrong. It had been nine years before and she was absolutely unable to move forward from the angry stage. She desperately needed help to get over the hurt and start afresh. Getting through these stages would normally not take more than two years and sometimes much less depending on the length of the relationship and other factors.
But there are steps you can take to reduce the strength and duration of that loss period. Here are some really effective ones. The idea of all of them is to reduce the incidence of triggered sad feelings from being reminded of the lost love.
Initially, the first reaction is often shock, an inability to take in what is being said. This shock leads to disbelief that the relationship is at an end. We simply cannot take in the enormity of what is happening.
Gradually as we begin to believe the situation anger sets in and we rage against what is happening to us. This stage often last quite a lot time and can be mixed with the next stage - guilt. At this stage we think 'If only I'd done that/if only I hadn't done this.. they'd still love me'. And because none of us is perfect there is always something we can choose to feel guilty about.
Then we begin bargaining, perhaps offering to behave differently if the loved one comes back to us, or offering something to God if the situation is reversed. But if this fails we can sink into low moods, a depression which can last some time before we gradually come out of it and accept that our life is now changed and start to look forward.
Sometimes, sadly, people get stuck at one of these stages. I remember someone telling me about her divorce. She was still very much at the angry stage and I assumed her break-up had been recent. But I couldn't have been more wrong. It had been nine years before and she was absolutely unable to move forward from the angry stage. She desperately needed help to get over the hurt and start afresh. Getting through these stages would normally not take more than two years and sometimes much less depending on the length of the relationship and other factors.
But there are steps you can take to reduce the strength and duration of that loss period. Here are some really effective ones. The idea of all of them is to reduce the incidence of triggered sad feelings from being reminded of the lost love.
How To Get A Girl's Attention
Getting a girl's attention is not as easy as what you may be thinking. Imagine if the girl has many suitors and you're just an average among them. Would you still have the guts to catch her attention? If yes, here are six simple tips to help you out.
• Have a status and ambition in life. Research shows that about 70 - 90% of women would easily notice men who live to their ambition beyond their looks. In this time and age, girls are after those who don't only excel in having good looks and great body. For them, its useless noticing a guy who's physically attractive but does not have a goal in life. However, you don't have to be a famous person to get her attention. Just be true to your career and be passionate about it.
• Learn the importance of helping. If you saw a woman carrying something that's too heavy, approach her and say, "let me help you carry that one" or "I'll carry that one for you". This is your best way to prove your worth as a gentleman which is a huge turn-on for her.
• Never act like everyone else. You must have your own identity, even though you may look like a famous celebrity. Most women are strongly believed to have the attitude of getting more attracted with men who can be a dead-ringer for an equally gorgeous person they know. If you have the same looks as that of George Clooney, girls wouldn't mind having second thoughts of going out on a romantic date. However, it's not because you look like George doesn't necessarily you have to act like him.
• Make eye contact with her when exchanging conversations. After every minute of talking, stare at her in a matter of 5 - 10 seconds. Don't forget to grin or smile at her. As her eyes starts to meet yours, she's getting interested in you. Making eye contact also measures the sincerity of your companionship.
• Don't be a "Yes Man" which is only good as a Jim Carrey movie. Live up to challenges by knowing when to say yes and no. Women dig men who love challenges that allow them to give in to what they want. Stand for what you think is believable and raise your self-esteem.
• Make her laugh as much as you make other people laugh.
What if you could seduce any woman you wanted?
I know how hard it can be but you see, as humans, we all have two ways of thinking. Number 1 is using logic or our conscious minds. No. 2 is using emotion or our subconscious minds.
• Have a status and ambition in life. Research shows that about 70 - 90% of women would easily notice men who live to their ambition beyond their looks. In this time and age, girls are after those who don't only excel in having good looks and great body. For them, its useless noticing a guy who's physically attractive but does not have a goal in life. However, you don't have to be a famous person to get her attention. Just be true to your career and be passionate about it.
• Learn the importance of helping. If you saw a woman carrying something that's too heavy, approach her and say, "let me help you carry that one" or "I'll carry that one for you". This is your best way to prove your worth as a gentleman which is a huge turn-on for her.
• Never act like everyone else. You must have your own identity, even though you may look like a famous celebrity. Most women are strongly believed to have the attitude of getting more attracted with men who can be a dead-ringer for an equally gorgeous person they know. If you have the same looks as that of George Clooney, girls wouldn't mind having second thoughts of going out on a romantic date. However, it's not because you look like George doesn't necessarily you have to act like him.
• Make eye contact with her when exchanging conversations. After every minute of talking, stare at her in a matter of 5 - 10 seconds. Don't forget to grin or smile at her. As her eyes starts to meet yours, she's getting interested in you. Making eye contact also measures the sincerity of your companionship.
• Don't be a "Yes Man" which is only good as a Jim Carrey movie. Live up to challenges by knowing when to say yes and no. Women dig men who love challenges that allow them to give in to what they want. Stand for what you think is believable and raise your self-esteem.
• Make her laugh as much as you make other people laugh.
What if you could seduce any woman you wanted?
I know how hard it can be but you see, as humans, we all have two ways of thinking. Number 1 is using logic or our conscious minds. No. 2 is using emotion or our subconscious minds.
The great thing about seducing women is that they are HARD WIRED to follow their emotional thoughts and feelings that are the same across ALL women... They cannot help it. That's why so many women fall for the same "ass hole" guys.
How to get your Ex Boyfriend back
Just a while ago, the two of you were together, happy and going strong. You were always the best couple for your friends, you had great love life and felt complete in each other’s company. But what happened suddenly? Why did the relationship go kaput? It hurts to think about the lovely days and your very loving partner. You wish if the same days and the same partner return to you. His exit from your life looks like the end of the world, but it doesn't have to, because you can have him back. How? Read on.
Stop all communication: It is best to stop sending any messages to him; stop giving him calls or beg him to come back to your life. Do not make any contact with him directly or indirectly. Even if you see him any where around you, do not go to him and start showering your love on him. Do not create a scene in public by crying and asking him to come back. If you do this, he will most likely start hating you and would never turn to you again.
Stop all communication: It is best to stop sending any messages to him; stop giving him calls or beg him to come back to your life. Do not make any contact with him directly or indirectly. Even if you see him any where around you, do not go to him and start showering your love on him. Do not create a scene in public by crying and asking him to come back. If you do this, he will most likely start hating you and would never turn to you again.Ignore Him: It is best to do what he would not expect from you, that is ignore him. This will make it easier for him to talk to you when you bump into each other. Ignoring means not following him, even if you follow, he should not get to know about it. If you happen to see him somewhere, ignore him. Let him come to you to talk. Do not look at him or go to him. When you do this, he would be forced to think that you have some one else in your life. Or he would think what’s wrong with you and why aren’t you contacting him. This will also make you more approachable as he will feel at ease. He knows you are not going to do any emotional drama, so he can meet and talk to you.
When you bother your ex by following and begging him for attention, he tends to think negative about you and he is forced to justify all the reasons for leaving you. But if you do the opposite, he will be reminded of all the good times spent together. You decide what you want!
Go back to your friends: Many girls give less time to their friends after they get into a relationship. So it is time to revive the old friendship. Go out and meet them and do not discuss what happened to your relationship. If your friends ask, just say that you will discuss about it some other day and not today. Friends always stand by you, so you need to maintain your relationship with them. If you decide to narrate your break-up story to them, you can even get some support from them. They may advise you but it is better to moderate the advices according to your situation and strategy.
Start pursuing your old passions: Remember the last time you painted anything? Or the last time you opened your cookery classes notebook and made something? If you had been ignoring your passions, this is the time to get back to them. Start doing whatever interests you. Pursue your passions so that they keep you engaged and divert your thoughts. Staying at home and doing nothing only brings back the memories and makes you cry. So better get engaged in doing something that really interests you.
Once you get busy with your new routine, you need to assess yourself. Do you still miss him? Do you still want him back or are you enjoying your new life, new independence? May be by the time you answer these questions, your ex comes back to you and if he doesn’t, you have learned to live without him without any regrets.
Meeting your ex: Since all this while you didn’t make any moves to meet him or contact him, he would be ready to meet you without any fear. When you meet him, remember to not do whatever you did when you were with him. Show him the changed you. Show him you are better off without him. Do all this not by using harsh words but by your expressions and attitude. Maintain distance with him and be a little mysterious. Let him run after you.
Decide what you want: When he comes back to you and shows some friendliness, you need to decide if you really want him back. Be honest about your feelings and don’t just say no to yourself because your ego doesn’t allow. If you still feel for him, you can give your relationship another shot. When together, make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes.
Follow these simple tips and you will have your ex boyfriend back in no time.
Dating Tips for Men
Women are difficult to understand and this makes dating really tough and sometimes frustrating for men. What does a woman actually want? Is it love, compliments, money or just some time pass? What is it? What preparations do men need when meeting a chic for some good time pass or a relationship? Riflebirds will tell you all.
When approaching a girl, forget those old and cheesy pick up lines – “I think I have seen you somewhere” or “Do we know each other?” Girls are very smart. They know it before a guy approaches them. So be smarter. Look straight into her eyes and gently touch her arm. Your eyes and the touch will do all the magic. But remember not to get slapped back. If you think she is not those simple kinds, leave her alone.
If you think a girl is really hot and is approached by many men then simply ignore her, not literally but pretend to ignore her when she is around. She will start paying more attention to you and may even start running after you.
Remember to compliment her when you meet. If they are fake, make them appear genuine else you will look like liar.
When looking for a serious relationship, do not go and ask her to be friends. Create moments and chances of interaction with her while being in a group. This will automatically make you her friend. Gradually you can increase your friendship and take it to the next level, depending upon her liking for you.
Remember to shave and use a good smelling perfume when you meet her. Also, the clothes you wear should be well ironed and shoes polished. Do not dress up formally and also do not be too casual. Look easy going and relaxed. Make the girl comfortable by your relaxed attitude.
During your conversations, do not bring up sensitive issues like religions or politics. If you ask about family, remember to be very careful as she may or may not have a parent or a sibling. Be polite in your conversations and do not become aggressive or defensive while discussing any issue.
While she is talking, listen to her and do make eye-contacts. Girls like to be heard. If you keep listening to her patiently, chances are that she may like to meet you again and again.
Maximize eye contact and minimize looking at her breast. Once she considers you desperate, she would never like to meet you again.
Girls like guys with good sense of humour. Make her laugh and crack jokes but not too much, else she will think you are a clown. Cheer her so that she turns to you all the time.
Keep some distinction between friendship and love. If you continue to listen to all her instructions and keep following her, chances are that she will put you in the category of friends. To avoid this, show to her that you have special feelings for her.
A girl will not give you a call after the first date. She will instead wait for you to respond. If you have liked her, respond at the earliest and add some compliments too. She will be forced to meet you again.
Compliment her qualities instead of her attributes. Compliment her patience, her writing skills, her attitude towards work or parents instead of complimenting her looks, beauty and style. She will feel like an achiever in life and increase your chances of becoming her partner.
When you become quite friendly with her, give funny answers to her endless and serious questions. She will like your sense of humour.
Break the traditional rule of red roses. Gift her some wild flowers from a good florist. She will like the thought and time you gave to the gift.
Do not start asking her about how and what she feels for you during your first few dates. Asking this too early will make her run away. Wait for her to express it herself through actions or words.
Keep yourself up-to-date with current affairs. Women like intelligent men. So you must have answers to her questions and during discussions.
Avoid phone calls when with her. Rejecting calls before her will make her feel special.
Insist on paying the restaurant bill else the girl will think you are broke.
When approaching a girl, forget those old and cheesy pick up lines – “I think I have seen you somewhere” or “Do we know each other?” Girls are very smart. They know it before a guy approaches them. So be smarter. Look straight into her eyes and gently touch her arm. Your eyes and the touch will do all the magic. But remember not to get slapped back. If you think she is not those simple kinds, leave her alone.If you think a girl is really hot and is approached by many men then simply ignore her, not literally but pretend to ignore her when she is around. She will start paying more attention to you and may even start running after you.
Remember to compliment her when you meet. If they are fake, make them appear genuine else you will look like liar.
When looking for a serious relationship, do not go and ask her to be friends. Create moments and chances of interaction with her while being in a group. This will automatically make you her friend. Gradually you can increase your friendship and take it to the next level, depending upon her liking for you.
Remember to shave and use a good smelling perfume when you meet her. Also, the clothes you wear should be well ironed and shoes polished. Do not dress up formally and also do not be too casual. Look easy going and relaxed. Make the girl comfortable by your relaxed attitude.
During your conversations, do not bring up sensitive issues like religions or politics. If you ask about family, remember to be very careful as she may or may not have a parent or a sibling. Be polite in your conversations and do not become aggressive or defensive while discussing any issue.
While she is talking, listen to her and do make eye-contacts. Girls like to be heard. If you keep listening to her patiently, chances are that she may like to meet you again and again.
Maximize eye contact and minimize looking at her breast. Once she considers you desperate, she would never like to meet you again.
Girls like guys with good sense of humour. Make her laugh and crack jokes but not too much, else she will think you are a clown. Cheer her so that she turns to you all the time.
Keep some distinction between friendship and love. If you continue to listen to all her instructions and keep following her, chances are that she will put you in the category of friends. To avoid this, show to her that you have special feelings for her.
A girl will not give you a call after the first date. She will instead wait for you to respond. If you have liked her, respond at the earliest and add some compliments too. She will be forced to meet you again.
Compliment her qualities instead of her attributes. Compliment her patience, her writing skills, her attitude towards work or parents instead of complimenting her looks, beauty and style. She will feel like an achiever in life and increase your chances of becoming her partner.
When you become quite friendly with her, give funny answers to her endless and serious questions. She will like your sense of humour.
Break the traditional rule of red roses. Gift her some wild flowers from a good florist. She will like the thought and time you gave to the gift.
Do not start asking her about how and what she feels for you during your first few dates. Asking this too early will make her run away. Wait for her to express it herself through actions or words.
Keep yourself up-to-date with current affairs. Women like intelligent men. So you must have answers to her questions and during discussions.
Avoid phone calls when with her. Rejecting calls before her will make her feel special.
Insist on paying the restaurant bill else the girl will think you are broke.
How to collect a Girl's contact number
If you find somebody interesting enough to stay in touch but hesitate in asking for her mobile number, then you are not the only one. Most men face the same problem. What is the big deal in giving away a stupid phone number? If she doesn’t like, she may choose not to take the call. But women are women. They like to play such games.
There may be times when women are dying to give away their numbers but there is nobody to ask for, may be because of reluctance or for whatsoever reason. Women take pride in being asked for their number. So they treat it as a chasing game and make men run after them or contact some common friend to get the number. Well well! Women must know that men have hundreds of ways to find out the number of any woman. But they prove that they are men and accept the challenge of asking for the number on their own.
To make this challenge easy, we offer you a strong tip that will help you in getting the contact information of women instantly; in fact it will make women give the number to you on their own. You don’t have to fight for it. Interesting, isn’t it?
What is the number one thing that women look in men? Any guesses? It’s Smartness. So you have to be smart in this act. What are the other characteristics that women like in men? More guesses please! Okay it’s spontaneity, sense of humour and intelligence.
When you first meet her, let’s say in a bar, you find her interesting. She is beautiful, intelligent, staying alone and most importantly SINGLE. You want to meet her again but how would you ask her for her number to fix up the plan? Good question! Now do this-
Show her your pleasant personality and find out what is the common thing that interests both of you. Suppose it is reading novels. Ask her for her favourite one and try to borrow. If she is willing to give it to you, just keep the fingers crossed. Don’t jump to ask her for her number. Keep interacting. May be even you have some novel to share with her. Oh great! Works well! Keep interacting. Now it’s time to say bye. The moment you say bye to her, just turn and say, “Hey! How am I supposed to contact you for the novel? Take my number and give me a call on this whenever you find time.” She would type your number on her mobile and when she is done, ask her to give you a missed call. Great! You have her number now.
Another idea is to ask her for her e-mail address. This is quite harmless since girls know they can block you anytime if they don’t like you. Now the point to remember here is that while you ask her for the e-mail id, do not write it yourself. Give her your mobile and ask her to type it. While she is doing it, just ask her, “Please also write your contact number.” You will get her number too. Even if she writes the wrong number, at least you will have her e-mail id. This method is a bit psychological. When she is okay with giving her e-mail id and is writing it down, she will not be in a position to say NO to phone number. Though there are chances of she giving away the wrong number but chances are that you will be successful in getting the right one.
One very important point to remember here is facial expressions. Do not show sudden excitement when you get her number. Keep you expressions subtle and stable. Though you may feel inner joy and victory when you get her number, you don’t need to show it to her that you have just finished a task.
Once you get the number, do not start pouring in messages and calls. Have patience and wait for some time before you send your first message to her. She will respond more happily than she would respond when you send her message immediately after meeting her. If she would be desperate to have some know-how from your end, she would not wait for your message for long and try to contact you herself.
So guys all the best! May you get lots and lots of mobile numbers. Only thing is that you must not misuse them.
There may be times when women are dying to give away their numbers but there is nobody to ask for, may be because of reluctance or for whatsoever reason. Women take pride in being asked for their number. So they treat it as a chasing game and make men run after them or contact some common friend to get the number. Well well! Women must know that men have hundreds of ways to find out the number of any woman. But they prove that they are men and accept the challenge of asking for the number on their own.To make this challenge easy, we offer you a strong tip that will help you in getting the contact information of women instantly; in fact it will make women give the number to you on their own. You don’t have to fight for it. Interesting, isn’t it?
What is the number one thing that women look in men? Any guesses? It’s Smartness. So you have to be smart in this act. What are the other characteristics that women like in men? More guesses please! Okay it’s spontaneity, sense of humour and intelligence.
When you first meet her, let’s say in a bar, you find her interesting. She is beautiful, intelligent, staying alone and most importantly SINGLE. You want to meet her again but how would you ask her for her number to fix up the plan? Good question! Now do this-
Show her your pleasant personality and find out what is the common thing that interests both of you. Suppose it is reading novels. Ask her for her favourite one and try to borrow. If she is willing to give it to you, just keep the fingers crossed. Don’t jump to ask her for her number. Keep interacting. May be even you have some novel to share with her. Oh great! Works well! Keep interacting. Now it’s time to say bye. The moment you say bye to her, just turn and say, “Hey! How am I supposed to contact you for the novel? Take my number and give me a call on this whenever you find time.” She would type your number on her mobile and when she is done, ask her to give you a missed call. Great! You have her number now.
Another idea is to ask her for her e-mail address. This is quite harmless since girls know they can block you anytime if they don’t like you. Now the point to remember here is that while you ask her for the e-mail id, do not write it yourself. Give her your mobile and ask her to type it. While she is doing it, just ask her, “Please also write your contact number.” You will get her number too. Even if she writes the wrong number, at least you will have her e-mail id. This method is a bit psychological. When she is okay with giving her e-mail id and is writing it down, she will not be in a position to say NO to phone number. Though there are chances of she giving away the wrong number but chances are that you will be successful in getting the right one.One very important point to remember here is facial expressions. Do not show sudden excitement when you get her number. Keep you expressions subtle and stable. Though you may feel inner joy and victory when you get her number, you don’t need to show it to her that you have just finished a task.
Once you get the number, do not start pouring in messages and calls. Have patience and wait for some time before you send your first message to her. She will respond more happily than she would respond when you send her message immediately after meeting her. If she would be desperate to have some know-how from your end, she would not wait for your message for long and try to contact you herself.
So guys all the best! May you get lots and lots of mobile numbers. Only thing is that you must not misuse them.
How to Stop and Talk to a Girl on Street
Well women are surrounded by needy men who always want the approval of girls before they do anything. Contrary to what men think and the way they behave, women need confident men who take some action.
If you want to talk to a girl walking on the street, you need to speak something that forces her to respond to you. If you are an average looking man and you try to act very smart, she will not even look at you or simply laugh at you. But if you say something with confidence without making her feel that you are talking to her because she looks good, she would definitely respond.
If you want to talk to a girl walking on the street, you need to speak something that forces her to respond to you. If you are an average looking man and you try to act very smart, she will not even look at you or simply laugh at you. But if you say something with confidence without making her feel that you are talking to her because she looks good, she would definitely respond.Say “Hi” to her and she will most likely look at you and then ignore you. Now say, “Ma’am are you scared of good-looking guys? Don’t worry! You will not fall for me!” Now, the fact that you're an average-looking guy really makes something like this work.
Well most guys don’t get this idea and they try hard to impress girls for their one look. But you have done it in just one go. You communicated to the pretty lady that you are not afraid of talking to good-looking girls and can make funny comments like that. This essentially also communicates that your sense of humour is good, which is a quality liked by most females.
Beautiful women come across guys who are boring and needy. These guys are not appealing to women. When someone shows his humour, personality and some strength, it really stands out.
So you get to chat with her a little. But do not act like a normal guy who would not leave her till she gets up and says she is getting late. Chat for a little while and then stand up to leave. When you leave her in between, you will do what most guys don’t do and thus act differently. She will instantly feel attracted towards you. She will doubt her beauty which couldn’t make you stay for a little longer. But she doesn’t know you are playing the trick.
When you get up to move, instantly ask her for her number and say you will call her at the end of the week to make some plan to meet. She wouldn’t say No to it and would instantly give her number. If you think she wouldn’t give it to you, just give her a paper and pen and ask her to write down her e-mail address. Women don’t have any problem in giving away e-mail address because they know they can block the person anytime.
Most men do not understand this technique and the moment they get the number of a girl, they flood her phone with messages and calls. If they have the e-mail id, they would try to chat with them. But such men are not liked by women.
If you make her wait for a few days, she would know you are genuine and would love to reply to your mail or message. Do not act needy and you will surely win.
Guys, it is actually possible to approach women, start conversations, and get phone numbers and emails within minutes. You can do it. You just need to act smart!
How to approach a Girl
Approaching girls is amongst the few things that make men actually sweat. Of course some of the guys find it easy approaching the girl sitting next to them without any fear of rejection, but there are many who find this as the toughest job in the matters of the heart. Not all guys know the tricks to approach girls but almost all girls know your ‘approaching’ tricks already. So come with new tricks guys!
Why is that approaching a girl is is so difficult for boys or for that matter even men? Approaching a girl actually comes with the ‘Fear of Rejection’. It is this fear that keeps men from going and saying something to the girls. It is so strong among most men that they are even tongue tied and when they try to say some thing, they end up uttering something stupid without even realizing what they are saying. The trick therefore is to know how to approach girls using a method that is creative and is unknown to the girl.
Why is that approaching a girl is is so difficult for boys or for that matter even men? Approaching a girl actually comes with the ‘Fear of Rejection’. It is this fear that keeps men from going and saying something to the girls. It is so strong among most men that they are even tongue tied and when they try to say some thing, they end up uttering something stupid without even realizing what they are saying. The trick therefore is to know how to approach girls using a method that is creative and is unknown to the girl.When approaching a girl, the first thing to remember is to accept rejection and move on. There is nothing like a fixed formula to approach a girl, but certain ways that can make your chances of rejection really minimal. But in case you face rejection, you must move on. Learn to cope with them because taking rejection in your stride is a sign of maturity.
No matter how advanced ways guys use, most girls usually fail them as they are usually updated on the latest approaching techniques used by guys. So if you are updated with the latest techniques, even she is updated with latest tricks doing the rounds. So what can you do about it? May be just do something that surprises her or exhibit a positive body language that works in your favour!
Body language is as important as using the right words. While approaching girls, remember to not have drooping shoulders or be nervous else your chances of getting rejected would become higher. This is because women like confident men who they can depend on. At the same time, do not be over confident or act very smart. When you show her positive body language, she will also give you some indication showing her interest in you, like laughing at your jokes or touching you lightly while laughing. If nothing like this happens, you must understand that she is not interested and not harass her with repeated indications of approaching her.
The best thing that works is being yourself because that makes you confident and you really don’t have to act. Appreciate her and compliment her because you know every girl loves to be complimented but don’t overdo that because as mentioned earlier ‘girls know all your tricks.’
How to Attract the Most Beautiful Women Sexually
Ever wondered why a beautiful woman is almost always out of your reach? Why a normal looking guy has a beautiful girlfriend and the handsome hunk is single? Do you think beautiful girls will not accept your proposal because you are not good looking, short heighted, not rich or because of other reasons?
Have you ever wondered why you look at a woman and develop feelings for her? And why is it that she looks at you, meets you and still does not feel the same for you? If you have all these questions in mind, we have the answers for all of them.Before we answer your questions and clear your doubts, you must develop a positive feeling in your heart and mind about how good you look and how easily you can have any girl in your life. Once you start believing in this, you may begin reading the rest of the article.
So let’s begin by analyzing how men and women think. It is said that men think from mind and women from heart. To some extent this is true. But when it comes to dating, attraction is different for men and women. We can say that men like what they see and women like what can never be seen but only felt. So when you see a beautiful girl, you start liking her, start admiring her beautiful long legs, her eyes, her perfect figure but when she ignores you, you feel you are physically not attractive to have such a beautiful girl in your life. The fact is that women believe in the personality of a man. They do not go by how tall you are or how rich you are but how good is your personality, how good is your sense of humour. Ofcourse money and looks do matter for females but not to the extent it matters for men.
Your qualities judge whether or not the woman will be sexually aroused by you. Women get turned on when they like the personality traits of men. Show your intelligence, your sense of humour, your spontaneity and your strength – she will without any doubt fall for you. To sustain her attraction for you, you must maintain the same behavior.
So what we learn here is that it is possible for you to have any girl in your life through your personality traits. While men get attracted to women physically by just looking at them, women take time and get attracted to men through interaction.
Love Addiction Symptoms and How Can You Identify Them
Falling in love is an experience that every person has to go through at one point in their lives. And if they are not prepared, sometimes it can be very overwhelming. The euphoric feelings that come when someone thinks of their loved ones are comparable to a drug and as a result can often become addicting which leads to unhealthy behavior and obsession. So how do you know when you have these love addiction symptoms? Well allow me to shed some light on what they are.
The symptoms of love addiction are often completely mental; however, they can lead to physical symptoms as well if unchecked.
1.) The first love addiction symptom that one usually notices is the inability to think about anything else. This usually occurs in the early stages and is the cause of many issues such as a drop in grades and a change in diet. The affected often finds themselves day dreaming about the other person and planning out their entire future together.
2.) Another symptom of love addiction is being unable to go an entire day without talking to the other person. Whether it be through text, email, phone, or in person you will feel as if you must be talking to the person at all times of the day. This is a particularly problematic symptom because it can often lead to not having anything to talk about or the realization that the person isn't as interesting as you originally thought. It is similar to spending too much time with the person.
3.) The third symptom that I will cover is being unwilling to let go. This occurs when you know that the person you are with is absolutely no good for you, but yet you are unwilling to let them go and move on. This can be a very dangerous symptom in nature and if you are experiencing this I highly suggest that you seek help in order to get out of your harmful relationship.
The love addiction symptoms I've outlined above are just a few of the things you should look out for; however, they are all important because knowing that you have an addiction is half the battle to surviving the addiction unharmed. It is important to remember that when it comes to love addiction, it can still be a bad thing even if the person is perfect for you. Love addiction leads to loss of interest and can easily ruin a promising relationship.
The symptoms of love addiction are often completely mental; however, they can lead to physical symptoms as well if unchecked.
1.) The first love addiction symptom that one usually notices is the inability to think about anything else. This usually occurs in the early stages and is the cause of many issues such as a drop in grades and a change in diet. The affected often finds themselves day dreaming about the other person and planning out their entire future together.
2.) Another symptom of love addiction is being unable to go an entire day without talking to the other person. Whether it be through text, email, phone, or in person you will feel as if you must be talking to the person at all times of the day. This is a particularly problematic symptom because it can often lead to not having anything to talk about or the realization that the person isn't as interesting as you originally thought. It is similar to spending too much time with the person.
3.) The third symptom that I will cover is being unwilling to let go. This occurs when you know that the person you are with is absolutely no good for you, but yet you are unwilling to let them go and move on. This can be a very dangerous symptom in nature and if you are experiencing this I highly suggest that you seek help in order to get out of your harmful relationship.
The love addiction symptoms I've outlined above are just a few of the things you should look out for; however, they are all important because knowing that you have an addiction is half the battle to surviving the addiction unharmed. It is important to remember that when it comes to love addiction, it can still be a bad thing even if the person is perfect for you. Love addiction leads to loss of interest and can easily ruin a promising relationship.
How to Know If someone Loves you Back?
Love can be a very funny emotion. Men and women are very different when it comes to expressing their love for someone, so if you know that you feel that way about him, it can make you really wonder if he feels that same way about you. Of course, if you just come right out and try to get him to talk about this, you probably are going to end up even more frustrated and annoyed with things. There are some clues that you can pick up on that will help you to figure out how he really feels about you.
Here are some signs that he really does love you:
1. He makes a point to schedule things around being with you.
He does not have to always express himself through his words. If he makes it a habit to schedule the things he likes to do around spending time with you, then it probably does mean that you are a priority in his life. And that is probably what worries you the most. To know that you are a priority in his life. As long as his actions are supporting this, then that probably is the way that he feels about you.
2. He includes you in things that involve his family.
It is a big deal to have a guy include you in things that involve being around his family. If you are the one who accompanies him when there is a holiday get together, or if you are the one he brings around when he just wants to drop in and visit with your family, then you can pretty much count on the fact that he has really deep feelings for you. Most men are not going to bring around a woman they are just dating or hooking up with, so this can be a good and clear sign that things are much deeper than that in his eyes.
3. His eyes seem to light up when he looks at you.
Words don't run as deep as the little things that people cannot help but to hide. Body language cues can tell a WHOLE lot about the way that someone feels about another. If his eyes seem to light up when he is looking at you, like he is really enamored with you, then he probably is. Sometimes, these signs are way more important and accurate than any words that he can put together. After all, how many women have been in a situation where their man said he loved them, but did things that proved he felt much differently?
Here are some signs that he really does love you:
1. He makes a point to schedule things around being with you.
He does not have to always express himself through his words. If he makes it a habit to schedule the things he likes to do around spending time with you, then it probably does mean that you are a priority in his life. And that is probably what worries you the most. To know that you are a priority in his life. As long as his actions are supporting this, then that probably is the way that he feels about you.
2. He includes you in things that involve his family.
It is a big deal to have a guy include you in things that involve being around his family. If you are the one who accompanies him when there is a holiday get together, or if you are the one he brings around when he just wants to drop in and visit with your family, then you can pretty much count on the fact that he has really deep feelings for you. Most men are not going to bring around a woman they are just dating or hooking up with, so this can be a good and clear sign that things are much deeper than that in his eyes.
3. His eyes seem to light up when he looks at you.
Words don't run as deep as the little things that people cannot help but to hide. Body language cues can tell a WHOLE lot about the way that someone feels about another. If his eyes seem to light up when he is looking at you, like he is really enamored with you, then he probably is. Sometimes, these signs are way more important and accurate than any words that he can put together. After all, how many women have been in a situation where their man said he loved them, but did things that proved he felt much differently?
How to know if a girl is falling in love
Falling in Love Signs
Falling in love signs are not the same for everyone, but signs are generally apparent if you know what to look for.
Are you wondering if someone close to you is falling in love? Perhaps it is not someone else's love life you are curious about, have you met someone and cannot seem to get him or her off your mind? Perhaps it is early signs that you are falling in love! Here are a few more common signs that people are falling in love with one another.
Time Together
Do you find that you are spending a great deal of time with this other person? When you meet, someone you connect with it is natural to want to spend a lot of time together. What is surprising to many people is the fact that this time does not have to center around a date or special occasion, you are happy to just hang out and be together. Of course, this happens in the average friendship as well so you may want to look at a few other signs as well.
Talking
People who are in love tend to be able to talk about anything and everything. Have you met someone you feel like you have known your entire life and no topic of conversation is boring? You could be falling in love. When you can have a great time talking about mundane topics, such as the weather you know that this relationship is something special.
Another thing you may do when you are falling in love is talk about the other person constantly. Your friends and co-workers will notice this even before you do. When you start seeing people roll their eyes or nod, knowingly when you bring up the other person's name, pay attention, this is definitely one of the falling in love signs.
Friends and Family
Unless you have grown up with the person you are, dating chances are good you do not know their family or closest friends. If you are being introduced and invited to family events or friendly get togethers, there is a strong possibility that someone is falling in love! Depending on the person you are dating, the friend introductions may be even more important than family. Some people do not have close relationships with family members and their opinion carries much less weight than the best friend does. Keep this in mind when meeting either of these people.
Types of Gifts
In the early days of a relationship, you can expect flowers, chocolate or cards but as you get to know each other, you should pay attention to how these gifts change. When you begin to love someone, you want to impress them, not always with flashy gifts but with things that have meaning. Have you always wanted to visit a Civil War battlefield because an ancestor of yours died there? When someone falls in love with you this could be in your future! The point of all this is not the gift itself, but the fact that they are taking the time to really know you and understand what is important.
Conclusion
Figuring out if someone is in love can be a tricky proposition. If it is a friend or family member you are curious about, these signs will tell you a lot. In fact, you may know before they do that they are falling in love! This is a beautiful thing to witness and even more exciting if you are the one it is happening to, love is a mysterious but wonderful thing.
Are you wondering if someone close to you is falling in love? Perhaps it is not someone else's love life you are curious about, have you met someone and cannot seem to get him or her off your mind? Perhaps it is early signs that you are falling in love! Here are a few more common signs that people are falling in love with one another.
Time Together
Do you find that you are spending a great deal of time with this other person? When you meet, someone you connect with it is natural to want to spend a lot of time together. What is surprising to many people is the fact that this time does not have to center around a date or special occasion, you are happy to just hang out and be together. Of course, this happens in the average friendship as well so you may want to look at a few other signs as well.
Talking
People who are in love tend to be able to talk about anything and everything. Have you met someone you feel like you have known your entire life and no topic of conversation is boring? You could be falling in love. When you can have a great time talking about mundane topics, such as the weather you know that this relationship is something special.
Another thing you may do when you are falling in love is talk about the other person constantly. Your friends and co-workers will notice this even before you do. When you start seeing people roll their eyes or nod, knowingly when you bring up the other person's name, pay attention, this is definitely one of the falling in love signs.
Friends and Family
Unless you have grown up with the person you are, dating chances are good you do not know their family or closest friends. If you are being introduced and invited to family events or friendly get togethers, there is a strong possibility that someone is falling in love! Depending on the person you are dating, the friend introductions may be even more important than family. Some people do not have close relationships with family members and their opinion carries much less weight than the best friend does. Keep this in mind when meeting either of these people.
Types of Gifts
In the early days of a relationship, you can expect flowers, chocolate or cards but as you get to know each other, you should pay attention to how these gifts change. When you begin to love someone, you want to impress them, not always with flashy gifts but with things that have meaning. Have you always wanted to visit a Civil War battlefield because an ancestor of yours died there? When someone falls in love with you this could be in your future! The point of all this is not the gift itself, but the fact that they are taking the time to really know you and understand what is important.
Conclusion
Figuring out if someone is in love can be a tricky proposition. If it is a friend or family member you are curious about, these signs will tell you a lot. In fact, you may know before they do that they are falling in love! This is a beautiful thing to witness and even more exciting if you are the one it is happening to, love is a mysterious but wonderful thing.
How to Break-Up With a Lover
When two people are together, there are bound to be misunderstandings and disagreements. Some people are able to solve such issues while others decide to quit. When you decide to end your relationship, it is important to let your boyfriend know about it in a polite way. If you show him anger, it would make the conversation unpleasant and lead to further fights.
Break-up hurts not just one but both the partners, therefore it is important to take a firm decision before you announce anything about it. Some people are unable to cope with break-up and they tend to harm themselves. If you think your boyfriend is also very sensitive, you must take extra care while telling him about your plans.
Do not jump to break-up immediately after a fight. Small disagreements look big in the beginning but they lose their importance as time passes. So wait before you end your relationship. Look at your parents and think about their quarrels. If they end their relationship after a small quarrel, it would mean having hundreds of new partners.
Do not blame him or bring out any of his short comings. Do not say that you are breaking-up with him because he didn't do something or he did something you didn't like. Once you have decided to end it, do not blame him for anything. Just tell him politely that you don't think your relationship can work out.
Do not inform him about break-up on e-mail or telephone: Breaking up on phone or email looks simple but it means you don't respect the time you have spent together. Give him respect and meet him in person to break-up.
Do not react: Even if he breaks down or is angry, you must stay neutral. If you too break down or become angry, you will not be able to break-up with him in a decent way. Stay relaxed and calm.
Select a neutral and private spot: Do not take him to a crowded place to break-up. It should be a place where you can talk easily without getting disturbed. Chances are that one of you would show emotions, and you would not want that scene in public. Right?
Do not stretch your meet: It is better to end up quickly because emotions are high during break-up. You will be sad or angry and there can be mixed emotions bringing in tears. The more your stay back, the more difficult it would be to break up with him.
Be prepared to take his anger: Some guys are unable to take rejection and they may say anything to you. You must be prepared to accept the rudest of words from him. You must not get hurt by what he says because he would say everything in anger or emotions. Keep listening and let him vent out whatever he is feeling.
Always remember that you must respect the person you have spent time with. Breaking-up doesn't mean that you stop respecting him and spread rumours about him. He should be the first one to know about break-up and thereafter there should not be any stories doing the rounds. If you say good things about everyone, good things will be said about you too.
Break-up hurts not just one but both the partners, therefore it is important to take a firm decision before you announce anything about it. Some people are unable to cope with break-up and they tend to harm themselves. If you think your boyfriend is also very sensitive, you must take extra care while telling him about your plans.
Do not jump to break-up immediately after a fight. Small disagreements look big in the beginning but they lose their importance as time passes. So wait before you end your relationship. Look at your parents and think about their quarrels. If they end their relationship after a small quarrel, it would mean having hundreds of new partners.
Do not blame him or bring out any of his short comings. Do not say that you are breaking-up with him because he didn't do something or he did something you didn't like. Once you have decided to end it, do not blame him for anything. Just tell him politely that you don't think your relationship can work out.
Do not inform him about break-up on e-mail or telephone: Breaking up on phone or email looks simple but it means you don't respect the time you have spent together. Give him respect and meet him in person to break-up.
Do not react: Even if he breaks down or is angry, you must stay neutral. If you too break down or become angry, you will not be able to break-up with him in a decent way. Stay relaxed and calm.
Select a neutral and private spot: Do not take him to a crowded place to break-up. It should be a place where you can talk easily without getting disturbed. Chances are that one of you would show emotions, and you would not want that scene in public. Right?
Do not stretch your meet: It is better to end up quickly because emotions are high during break-up. You will be sad or angry and there can be mixed emotions bringing in tears. The more your stay back, the more difficult it would be to break up with him.
Be prepared to take his anger: Some guys are unable to take rejection and they may say anything to you. You must be prepared to accept the rudest of words from him. You must not get hurt by what he says because he would say everything in anger or emotions. Keep listening and let him vent out whatever he is feeling.
Always remember that you must respect the person you have spent time with. Breaking-up doesn't mean that you stop respecting him and spread rumours about him. He should be the first one to know about break-up and thereafter there should not be any stories doing the rounds. If you say good things about everyone, good things will be said about you too.
How to Show a Girl You Love Them Without Scaring her Off
You love them and you want to let them know but you want to do it in such a way that you do not scare them off. Essentially your problem is how to subtly let them know that you really like them (much more than a friend) without coming on too strongly and overwhelming them so that they bolt. You want to use various understated and under the radar ways to slowly draw them to your side. And your question is; how to do this without scaring them off?
1. Attentively and considerately! To show someone that you care about them you need to be attentive to them and to take into account their feelings, concerns and interests. Nothing shows your interest in a person than listening to them and actually hearing them. To hear them when they talk you need to pay attention and really listen to their words and watch their body language and then let them know that they are interesting to you by asking relevant questions and making appropriate comments. And think about their feelings, concerns and interests even as you are attentive to them and as you listen look out for the needs that they might express even in passing and find a way to meet those needs. At the beginning you want to meet only small needs otherwise you will scare them off if you try to meet a big need in a huge and outlandish manner. And don't rush in to meet all their needs like superman (or is it prince charming) but start in small ways with an attitude of concern for them. Treat them cordially and ensure that you do not hurt their feelings by saying or doing inappropriate things. And if you tell them that you will do something for them or you will be with them at a specific time then you need to do as you said and do not inconvenience them.
2. With warmth and friendliness. To show someone that you love them you need to treat them with warmth and to be their friend. Being indifferent, cool and aloof may work for your non romantic interests but if you really like them and want them to know then you need to thaw out. As a friend you will have fun with them; you will talk about everyday and serious things with them; you will tell them your secrets and you will keep their secrets; and you will stand up for them when others criticise them and you will stand with them during tough times. You will thus be affectionately engaged in their life as a true friend.
3. Intentionally! All these things you will do on purpose. So you need to determine in your heart that you will do these things even when you would rather focus on yourself. The person you like and are behaving like this to will slowly begin to reciprocate but you must be the initiator and the one who carries the relationship until the person you like reciprocates all that you feel. To show someone your love requires your inner motivation and purpose that this is something you want and are willing to invest in otherwise you will run out of energy and patience.
4. With your ability and practically. To show your love you must do things for the object of your affection. You know the saying 'words are cheap' well it is true and you just cannot speak yourself into a relationship without doing any deeds of love. You will need to use your resources which will include your money, your time and your gifts to do imaginative and memorable things or deeds for the one you love. Only your imagination and your resources can limit what you can do.
To show someone your love requires that you implement all of these 4 components. As your love becomes clear and obvious to them they will in turn reciprocate but make sure that at the appropriate time you let them know that yours is a romantic interest and not just friendship. There is nothing more frustrating than being treated only as a friend by someone you love and want more from.
1. Attentively and considerately! To show someone that you care about them you need to be attentive to them and to take into account their feelings, concerns and interests. Nothing shows your interest in a person than listening to them and actually hearing them. To hear them when they talk you need to pay attention and really listen to their words and watch their body language and then let them know that they are interesting to you by asking relevant questions and making appropriate comments. And think about their feelings, concerns and interests even as you are attentive to them and as you listen look out for the needs that they might express even in passing and find a way to meet those needs. At the beginning you want to meet only small needs otherwise you will scare them off if you try to meet a big need in a huge and outlandish manner. And don't rush in to meet all their needs like superman (or is it prince charming) but start in small ways with an attitude of concern for them. Treat them cordially and ensure that you do not hurt their feelings by saying or doing inappropriate things. And if you tell them that you will do something for them or you will be with them at a specific time then you need to do as you said and do not inconvenience them.
2. With warmth and friendliness. To show someone that you love them you need to treat them with warmth and to be their friend. Being indifferent, cool and aloof may work for your non romantic interests but if you really like them and want them to know then you need to thaw out. As a friend you will have fun with them; you will talk about everyday and serious things with them; you will tell them your secrets and you will keep their secrets; and you will stand up for them when others criticise them and you will stand with them during tough times. You will thus be affectionately engaged in their life as a true friend.
3. Intentionally! All these things you will do on purpose. So you need to determine in your heart that you will do these things even when you would rather focus on yourself. The person you like and are behaving like this to will slowly begin to reciprocate but you must be the initiator and the one who carries the relationship until the person you like reciprocates all that you feel. To show someone your love requires your inner motivation and purpose that this is something you want and are willing to invest in otherwise you will run out of energy and patience.
4. With your ability and practically. To show your love you must do things for the object of your affection. You know the saying 'words are cheap' well it is true and you just cannot speak yourself into a relationship without doing any deeds of love. You will need to use your resources which will include your money, your time and your gifts to do imaginative and memorable things or deeds for the one you love. Only your imagination and your resources can limit what you can do.
To show someone your love requires that you implement all of these 4 components. As your love becomes clear and obvious to them they will in turn reciprocate but make sure that at the appropriate time you let them know that yours is a romantic interest and not just friendship. There is nothing more frustrating than being treated only as a friend by someone you love and want more from.
How Can I Find Love? Find Your Hidden Obstacles
So, you've created the vision of your ideal relationship. Perhaps you've crafted a comprehensive "soulmate wish list." You know what you want (at least you think you do). But HE IS NOT SHOWING UP.
"Why do they tell us to create a list of what we want?" - You ask yourself. "To make it clearer that I want the impossible? If he hasn't shown up for 15 years that I've been waiting, maybe, it's just not meant for me to have the love I want." And you close your doors...
Please, don't be in a hurry to resign. If it's not happening, there are very clear, distinct reasons for that. Your task is to identify these reasons and adjust, shift your mindset to remove the blockages that stand in the way of your desire.
What kind of blockages?
Take a moment, step aside of your usual flow of thought, and ask yourself a question:
"How open am I really, to the reality of meeting and uniting my ideal life partner?"
You may be open to it consciously, but on the subconscious level you are pushing away the fulfillment of your desire.
Our belief system is formed based on our life experience. Often, strong beliefs and reactive behavior patterns come as a result of childhood trauma. If you haven't been able to create a successful relationship for many years, this has probably strengthened your unconscious assumption that "you are not destined" to have it.
So, what keeps you from attracting your ideal relationship, is a set of limiting beliefs about yourself and others.
These beliefs reside deep in your subconscious mind, and control most of your behavior.
Throughout my work with clients I've identified clusters of most common issues that stand in the way of attracting love. I say "clusters" because they usually are related to each other forming a chain reaction of negative behavior patterns that sabotage your relationships.
Your number one enemy: "I am not worthy."
Lack of self-worth is the most common and most damaging belief. Before you can have a healthy relationship with someone else, you have to learn to love and value yourself. This was my problem for a while and it was destroying my relationships until I gained awareness and was able to clearly see that that's what had been driving my choice of partners.
If you believe that there is "something wrong with you", that you are "not as good as others" in some way, that you are "not complete" and need to find a partner to complete you; then you become too attached to the relationship. You can't lose it; it feels if you lose it, you'll lose yourself. This dramatic undercurrent shows through. Your partner will sense it and he will feel trapped. At some point he will feel the need to break out from your hold and leave.
If you have a pattern of attracting men that can't commit to you, if you feel that you give a lot and get very little in return, it is likely that on some level you don't feel worthy of having a great relationship.
Another way in which this issue shows up is that you will tend to choose partners who are "damaged" in some way, for whom it would be difficult to find another woman. You know they will be really attached to you, value you, and never leave you. Relationships that are based on co-dependence may last for a while, but they won't make you happy.
Do you think that there isn't the right man for you out there?
A negative generalization like "men are... (fill in the blank)", or "all the good ones are taken", represent another cluster of commonly observed limiting beliefs. Statistically, you may be right. At a certain age there are probably fewer available men who are up to your standards and willing to be in a committed relationship. Maybe...
But statistics is the law of large numbers. It has nothing to do with your unique ability to find The One. You need only one, remember? You have to open yourself up to that possibility. If you believe it's impossible, you are pushing him away. Don't be attached to a particular image of him that you created for yourself. He may not look like your image, but he will have the qualities that are most important for you. He should be able to give you what you most yearn for in a relationship.
Are you too busy?
I work primarily with professional women. I often hear "I am too busy to date." If you are a career woman or a business owner, you know it takes dedication to create a change in your life, to achieve any goal. Transforming your relationship patterns and attracting a life partner: how big of a change do you think that will be? How important is it to you? How much of a commitment will this require?
You have to make a space in your life for the new relationship: a space in your mindset, a space in your thought process, a space in your heart, and a space in your schedule.
"When I meet the right man, I will stop being too busy."
It doesn't work that way. You have to create a room first, and then you will be making choices that will lead you to meeting the right man. You will literally "attract" him if you create the space, and you will severely limit your chances if you don't.
So, what are your obstacles?
The trick is to be able to step aside, identify the specific beliefs that stand in your way, and dissolve them; shift your mindset and take a different perspective on these things. You will then become a different person, someone who is open, warm and inviting; someone who is magnetic to love.
"Why do they tell us to create a list of what we want?" - You ask yourself. "To make it clearer that I want the impossible? If he hasn't shown up for 15 years that I've been waiting, maybe, it's just not meant for me to have the love I want." And you close your doors...
Please, don't be in a hurry to resign. If it's not happening, there are very clear, distinct reasons for that. Your task is to identify these reasons and adjust, shift your mindset to remove the blockages that stand in the way of your desire.
What kind of blockages?
Take a moment, step aside of your usual flow of thought, and ask yourself a question:
"How open am I really, to the reality of meeting and uniting my ideal life partner?"
You may be open to it consciously, but on the subconscious level you are pushing away the fulfillment of your desire.
Our belief system is formed based on our life experience. Often, strong beliefs and reactive behavior patterns come as a result of childhood trauma. If you haven't been able to create a successful relationship for many years, this has probably strengthened your unconscious assumption that "you are not destined" to have it.
So, what keeps you from attracting your ideal relationship, is a set of limiting beliefs about yourself and others.
These beliefs reside deep in your subconscious mind, and control most of your behavior.
Throughout my work with clients I've identified clusters of most common issues that stand in the way of attracting love. I say "clusters" because they usually are related to each other forming a chain reaction of negative behavior patterns that sabotage your relationships.
Your number one enemy: "I am not worthy."
Lack of self-worth is the most common and most damaging belief. Before you can have a healthy relationship with someone else, you have to learn to love and value yourself. This was my problem for a while and it was destroying my relationships until I gained awareness and was able to clearly see that that's what had been driving my choice of partners.
If you believe that there is "something wrong with you", that you are "not as good as others" in some way, that you are "not complete" and need to find a partner to complete you; then you become too attached to the relationship. You can't lose it; it feels if you lose it, you'll lose yourself. This dramatic undercurrent shows through. Your partner will sense it and he will feel trapped. At some point he will feel the need to break out from your hold and leave.
If you have a pattern of attracting men that can't commit to you, if you feel that you give a lot and get very little in return, it is likely that on some level you don't feel worthy of having a great relationship.
Another way in which this issue shows up is that you will tend to choose partners who are "damaged" in some way, for whom it would be difficult to find another woman. You know they will be really attached to you, value you, and never leave you. Relationships that are based on co-dependence may last for a while, but they won't make you happy.
Do you think that there isn't the right man for you out there?
A negative generalization like "men are... (fill in the blank)", or "all the good ones are taken", represent another cluster of commonly observed limiting beliefs. Statistically, you may be right. At a certain age there are probably fewer available men who are up to your standards and willing to be in a committed relationship. Maybe...
But statistics is the law of large numbers. It has nothing to do with your unique ability to find The One. You need only one, remember? You have to open yourself up to that possibility. If you believe it's impossible, you are pushing him away. Don't be attached to a particular image of him that you created for yourself. He may not look like your image, but he will have the qualities that are most important for you. He should be able to give you what you most yearn for in a relationship.
Are you too busy?
I work primarily with professional women. I often hear "I am too busy to date." If you are a career woman or a business owner, you know it takes dedication to create a change in your life, to achieve any goal. Transforming your relationship patterns and attracting a life partner: how big of a change do you think that will be? How important is it to you? How much of a commitment will this require?
You have to make a space in your life for the new relationship: a space in your mindset, a space in your thought process, a space in your heart, and a space in your schedule.
"When I meet the right man, I will stop being too busy."
It doesn't work that way. You have to create a room first, and then you will be making choices that will lead you to meeting the right man. You will literally "attract" him if you create the space, and you will severely limit your chances if you don't.
So, what are your obstacles?
The trick is to be able to step aside, identify the specific beliefs that stand in your way, and dissolve them; shift your mindset and take a different perspective on these things. You will then become a different person, someone who is open, warm and inviting; someone who is magnetic to love.
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