Stop all communication: It is best to stop sending any messages to him; stop giving him calls or beg him to come back to your life. Do not make any contact with him directly or indirectly. Even if you see him any where around you, do not go to him and start showering your love on him. Do not create a scene in public by crying and asking him to come back. If you do this, he will most likely start hating you and would never turn to you again.Ignore Him: It is best to do what he would not expect from you, that is ignore him. This will make it easier for him to talk to you when you bump into each other. Ignoring means not following him, even if you follow, he should not get to know about it. If you happen to see him somewhere, ignore him. Let him come to you to talk. Do not look at him or go to him. When you do this, he would be forced to think that you have some one else in your life. Or he would think what’s wrong with you and why aren’t you contacting him. This will also make you more approachable as he will feel at ease. He knows you are not going to do any emotional drama, so he can meet and talk to you.
When you bother your ex by following and begging him for attention, he tends to think negative about you and he is forced to justify all the reasons for leaving you. But if you do the opposite, he will be reminded of all the good times spent together. You decide what you want!
Go back to your friends: Many girls give less time to their friends after they get into a relationship. So it is time to revive the old friendship. Go out and meet them and do not discuss what happened to your relationship. If your friends ask, just say that you will discuss about it some other day and not today. Friends always stand by you, so you need to maintain your relationship with them. If you decide to narrate your break-up story to them, you can even get some support from them. They may advise you but it is better to moderate the advices according to your situation and strategy.
Start pursuing your old passions: Remember the last time you painted anything? Or the last time you opened your cookery classes notebook and made something? If you had been ignoring your passions, this is the time to get back to them. Start doing whatever interests you. Pursue your passions so that they keep you engaged and divert your thoughts. Staying at home and doing nothing only brings back the memories and makes you cry. So better get engaged in doing something that really interests you.
Once you get busy with your new routine, you need to assess yourself. Do you still miss him? Do you still want him back or are you enjoying your new life, new independence? May be by the time you answer these questions, your ex comes back to you and if he doesn’t, you have learned to live without him without any regrets.
Meeting your ex: Since all this while you didn’t make any moves to meet him or contact him, he would be ready to meet you without any fear. When you meet him, remember to not do whatever you did when you were with him. Show him the changed you. Show him you are better off without him. Do all this not by using harsh words but by your expressions and attitude. Maintain distance with him and be a little mysterious. Let him run after you.
Decide what you want: When he comes back to you and shows some friendliness, you need to decide if you really want him back. Be honest about your feelings and don’t just say no to yourself because your ego doesn’t allow. If you still feel for him, you can give your relationship another shot. When together, make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes.
Follow these simple tips and you will have your ex boyfriend back in no time.