How to Break-Up With a Lover

When two people are together, there are bound to be misunderstandings and disagreements. Some people are able to solve such issues while others decide to quit. When you decide to end your relationship, it is important to let your boyfriend know about it in a polite way. If you show him anger, it would make the conversation unpleasant and lead to further fights.

Break-up hurts not just one but both the partners, therefore it is important to take a firm decision before you announce anything about it. Some people are unable to cope with break-up and they tend to harm themselves. If you think your boyfriend is also very sensitive, you must take extra care while telling him about your plans.

Do not jump to break-up immediately after a fight. Small disagreements look big in the beginning but they lose their importance as time passes. So wait before you end your relationship. Look at your parents and think about their quarrels. If they end their relationship after a small quarrel, it would mean having hundreds of new partners.

Do not blame him or bring out any of his short comings. Do not say that you are breaking-up with him because he didn't do something or he did something you didn't like. Once you have decided to end it, do not blame him for anything. Just tell him politely that you don't think your relationship can work out.

Do not inform him about break-up on e-mail or telephone: Breaking up on phone or email looks simple but it means you don't respect the time you have spent together. Give him respect and meet him in person to break-up.

Do not react: Even if he breaks down or is angry, you must stay neutral. If you too break down or become angry, you will not be able to break-up with him in a decent way. Stay relaxed and calm.
Select a neutral and private spot: Do not take him to a crowded place to break-up. It should be a place where you can talk easily without getting disturbed. Chances are that one of you would show emotions, and you would not want that scene in public. Right?

Do not stretch your meet: It is better to end up quickly because emotions are high during break-up. You will be sad or angry and there can be mixed emotions bringing in tears. The more your stay back, the more difficult it would be to break up with him.

Be prepared to take his anger: Some guys are unable to take rejection and they may say anything to you. You must be prepared to accept the rudest of words from him. You must not get hurt by what he says because he would say everything in anger or emotions. Keep listening and let him vent out whatever he is feeling.

Always remember that you must respect the person you have spent time with. Breaking-up doesn't mean that you stop respecting him and spread rumours about him. He should be the first one to know about break-up and thereafter there should not be any stories doing the rounds. If you say good things about everyone, good things will be said about you too.