There are so many books, tapes, magazine articles on ways to improve your sex life. But the key to obtaining sexual confidence in not in sex positions, special oils, and lingerie, but in how one views him or
herself. Don't let societal views on sex hinder you or pressure you into doing things that are not right for you. Develop your own sexual independence and improve your sexual health vy making yourself happy first.
Step 1
Be confident in talking about your sexual anxieties to your partner. Releasing shame, embarrassment, and insecurities can open up a dialogue, bring you closer together, and encouraging a stronger intimacy bond. Talking about sex and intamacy creates ways of finding solutions for any sexual issue.
Step 2
Shake the habit of having too many insecurity hang ups. Your partner does not obsess over "defected body parts," as you think you have. Letting go is essential to having a healthy sexual relationship that is satisfying for both parties as well as fun.
Step 3
If you partner has a lower sexual desire at specific times, stop taking it personal because most often than not, it is not about you. Respect that your partner just may be tired, and not have the energy to divulge in sexual activity. That is okay, and if your partner wants to go solo, let it be.
Step 4
Don't be afraid to experiment with sex toys, lubrications, and intimacy products. You can improve your sex life by releasing shame and inviting spontaneity and spice into your life. Research has shown that people who can pleasure themselves have a healthier body image than those that do not (or are ashamed of it).
Step 5
Communication is key, especially with your sex life. Just like communication is super important in maintaining and working at a relationship, so is verbalizing your likes and dislikes in bed. Your partner does not live in your head and they just may earnestly, not know what you like. Instead of making demands, or impolitely critizing your partner, playfully guide them to areas that are most pleasurable to you. Again, make suggestions that will keep your sex life fun and interesting. Ask him/her about their turn ons as well and make an effort to please your partner just as much as he or she does for you.
Step 6
Exercise to keep your body healthy and fit. Exercising can have a huge, positive impact on a person's sex life. Yoga, and Pilates especially strengthens, tones, and creates flexibility in the body that can enhance a person's body image and desire for sex. Yoga especially stimulates blood flow to the body and the pelvic region, which releases endorphins and can stimulate your sex drive.
Step 7
Improve your sex life by making your sexual fantasies real. Many women are so ashamed about asking for want they want and desiring where men are taught that everything they desire is apart of their manhood. Try envisioning your desires make you a passionate sexual being and with confidence, show this off to your partner. Turn your fantasies into a reality. When your partner sees that you are confident and adventurous, they won't hold back either.
