It is very important for a man to maintain erection long enough to be able to satisfy his woman. If he cannot stay erect for a long time or he ejaculates quickly, he cannot be able to satisfy his woman even though he may satisfy himself.
If a man satisfies himself without satisfying his woman, then he will find that she will begin to loose interest in sex. He will eventually be replaced, at least in her fantacies, if not worse.
Now, if you are too shy to share with your lady the fact that you are taking efforst to maintain erection longer, you may be doomed before you start. I want you to avoid the following scenario…you may read my articles and begin to work on becoming a better lover only to be shot down by a woman who doesn’t have faith in your abilities. I am talking about her ‘not being in the mood’, or just lying there like a bump on a log, with an attitude along the lines of ‘pull my pants up when you’re finished’, then it will be next to impossible to overcome this problem. You will loose your erection as soon as you get frustrated. As well, you will feel contempt for her, after all your efforts, and being excited about some new things to try, she is not putting in a matching effort.
Share your efforts with her, possibly even reading this article together. The fact that you are trying to improve her sexual satisfaction will likely delight her. Your goal is for her to be the vixen she knows she can be, and for her to have faith in you. Her physical and emotional efforts, is a very large part of the erectile equation, ad she has to know that.
For you to stay erect longer in bed, the following points should be noted:
Sleep well and avoid stress.
It is amazing the difference this will make. It is a medical fact that this is a factor. Now one of the tough parts is that if you are stressed out about the thought of ‘not pleasing your woman’ or felling you are ‘not a man’. Then you will many times find these such results. Take some of the stress off of yourself. Don’t aim to be ‘the best she has ever had’ (not right away, but it is so possible), but start with trying to be the best you can be. Then set your goals to being the best you have ever been. I have been through all these steps myself, and never thought I would be where I am now. I long became the best she has had, and every once in a while I still set a new ‘high’ for her.
First things first
The goal here is not to give her your penis, until she is extremely excited. The more excited she is, the more wet she is, and therefore the less tight she will feel. This will bring your pleasure level down notch and hers up. This brings your climaxes closer to each other. The goal for the guy is to get her to a climax before or during his own climax, or most preferably after she has had multiple orgasms.
Get her soaking wet for at least 20 minutes before entering her with your penis. If you can bring her to orgasm at least before even using your penis, then do it. Tease her with your tongue, a finger, verbal stimulation (talk sexy, compliments, etc…), everything you have. If talking dirty to her is something that works for her, then do it. Many women get more excited by verbal stimulation than physical contact; don’t take it personal.
Be erect for at least 10 minutes before intercourse.
It seems that when you are erect longer before the intercourse, your penis is ‘less sensitive’ to the physical pleasures. Sometimes, when it is hard for a long time, it is actually ‘numb’.
Take control.
Do it at your pace; withdraw if you get close to ejaculation. You can switch to some finger penetration while your penis calms down a bit. The important part here is to enjoy what you are doing, and stay erect as possible with positive thoughts and mental images. Going limb is a bad thing as well as you will get excited (performance anxiety) and when you overcompensate to bring it back, you will have ejaculation quicker than expected. Also, a soft penis still feels the sexual tingle. So while you are trying to work with your penis less than hard, you are bringing yourself closer to orgasm, but generally not bringing her closer. This is counter productive in terms of pleasing your woman. The good is to maximize her pleasure, while controlling or ‘throttling’ your pleasure.
Multiple rounds of sex.
Now, men and women naturally climax at different rates, with men climaxing first, and more easily. You are not alone; it is natural. If you want to become a great lover, you have to find ways to overcome this. Men climax sooner, and a limp for a while afterwards. Now, for some people, we are talking of minutes, and for some, we are talking of hours. If we are talking of hours, then I highly recommend talking to your doctor about Viagra. Because men climax quicker, your ability to last longer is going ti have to involve “Round 2” and may be 3. Sex does not have to end after the guy’s orgasm.
Find your technique.
Test various sexual methods and you will realize that the one that works for you may not necessarily be the one that works for her. A favourite in my bag of tricks is to switch to short thrusts, while penetrated deeply. I find these short thrusts less personally satisfying, but still very satisfying for my lady. Now, I have an above average penis, and these strokes are deep inside of her (I feel it touching something way deep inside, and she goes wild as I hit the spot). If this doesn’t have the same effect on your partner, then try different angles, positions and methods, till you find the one that seems to work for her more than you.
So now, while you are increasing her pleasure, you are decreasing your own and no longer so close to ejaculation. At this point, you are free to switch to another position if you wish, but if she is really enjoying it, then go for it! Also realize that women can usually have orgasm after orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that because she is orgasming, that you might as well do the same. Give her multiple orgasms.
Have sex more often.
It has been said that a man should masturbate himself to orgasm a few hours before the encounter. If the body has sperm built up and is ‘ready to explode’, the orgasm is going to come quicker than if you have only a part load building. Now, I have a different twist on this. In the morning, have a quickie in the shower before work. Ask her to join you in the shower, and pop off a quickie. When you get home that night, then it is no ‘quickie’. You will find your staying power greatly increased. Let it be known that the shower episode is a quickie, a teaser for what she is going to get in the night.
Communicate with her.
If you are reading this article, because you feel you have not been rocking her world, then share with her the fact that you have some new techniques, etc…that you want to experiment with. Ask for her cooperation and understanding. Tell her you need to wipe the old score board clean. Ask her if she will enter the bedroom with the confidence that you can and will rock her world. This will make a big difference. While you are experimenting, you don’t need the stress and performance anxiety.
STRESS is an absolute killer in the bedroom. Have fun. If you have been ‘working her’ for a long time, and she is not coming to climax, don’t sweat it. If you are doing a good job, then she is enjoying the ride, and the climax will come. Tell her you taking your time because the enjoyment is in the travel in the travel, not arriving at the destination.
