Knowing how to create sexual tension with a woman is one of the most important skills that any guy can pick up if he wants to become successful with women. Being able to create sexual tension with a woman is not just necessary to get a woman into bed with you, it also gives that wild little spark that makes all interactions with a woman more interesting. The funny thing about sexual tension is, nice guys just don't get it and that is part of the reason why they seem to struggle more than they should.
Nice Guys Just Don't Get It...
There has to be some friction between you and a woman if you are going to make her feel that kind of tension that can easily be sparked into something more. What nice guys do is, they take away all of the possibility of their being any friction all because they are too focused on being 'nice' and they shy away from being real. Ever wonder why nice guys seem to strike out so much and guys who are not so nice seem to do well with women?
It all boils down to the fact that the nice guy does not create any kind of feelings that resemble tension or sexual desire with a woman. Now, some guys interpret this to mean that they need to become some kind of a jerk to get women to want them and while that may seem like the way it is at times, you really don't need to be a jerk at all.
What you do need to be is REAL which means that you are going to speak your mind, conflict with her opinions when that is really the way that you feel and if possible, be playful about the whole thing. You don't have to and you really should not employ any tactics where you are just trying to agree with whatever a woman says or avoid any possible conflict at all. Not if you want to make her feel that kind of tension that will make her want to end up in bed with you, at least.
You also need to realize that there is a fine line.
Now, some guys will try to create those sexual sparks with a woman and go about it completely wrong and of course, they do not end up getting the desired results that they want. This is natural and it takes some time before you really get into your own little groove where it becomes normal for you to just be yourself and be playful and even bust a woman's chops just for fun. There is a thin line between busting her chops and just being mean and you need to make sure that you tread on the right side of things, or else she will feel more contempt towards you than she does DESIRE.
Nice Guys Just Don't Get It...
There has to be some friction between you and a woman if you are going to make her feel that kind of tension that can easily be sparked into something more. What nice guys do is, they take away all of the possibility of their being any friction all because they are too focused on being 'nice' and they shy away from being real. Ever wonder why nice guys seem to strike out so much and guys who are not so nice seem to do well with women?
It all boils down to the fact that the nice guy does not create any kind of feelings that resemble tension or sexual desire with a woman. Now, some guys interpret this to mean that they need to become some kind of a jerk to get women to want them and while that may seem like the way it is at times, you really don't need to be a jerk at all.
What you do need to be is REAL which means that you are going to speak your mind, conflict with her opinions when that is really the way that you feel and if possible, be playful about the whole thing. You don't have to and you really should not employ any tactics where you are just trying to agree with whatever a woman says or avoid any possible conflict at all. Not if you want to make her feel that kind of tension that will make her want to end up in bed with you, at least.
You also need to realize that there is a fine line.
Now, some guys will try to create those sexual sparks with a woman and go about it completely wrong and of course, they do not end up getting the desired results that they want. This is natural and it takes some time before you really get into your own little groove where it becomes normal for you to just be yourself and be playful and even bust a woman's chops just for fun. There is a thin line between busting her chops and just being mean and you need to make sure that you tread on the right side of things, or else she will feel more contempt towards you than she does DESIRE.