Are you having trouble finding love? Or wondering if the person you're with right now is really your soul mate? If so (whichever it is), you're in good company: lots of us (especially women of a certain age, hint, hint) are in the same boat: if we don't have someone right now, we may be feeling like it's a challenge to find love at all, and even if we are in a relationship, we may be wondering if he's "the one." And no matter what else we may believe, I think we all have the secret belief that there is ONE true soul mate for us out there somewhere, and that it's our life's true purpose to find that soul mate.
I'd like to share 3 different techniques for finding love and knowing your soul mate when you find them. I've seen these techniques work over and over again, and if you're skeptical, just keep an open mind and give them a try: you've got nothing to lose if they don't work, and everything to gain if they do.
Visualize Your soul mate, Down to the Smallest Detail
What does he look like? What does he smell like? What does he feel like? Sound like? Taste like? It may seem a little "out there" to try to visualize what somebody smells like or tastes like, but the truth is, all of us have our own distinctive smells, sounds, and tastes that set us apart from everybody else, and in the scale of human history, language is a relatively recent form of communication: for thousands of years before there was spoken and written language, there was the unwritten communication of the 5 senses (sight, smell, touch, hearing, and taste). It only makes sense (no pun intended) that these non-verbal cues still carry a lot of weight. And the more detail you put into your mental picture, the more likely you are to recognize your soul mate when you meet him, even if you don't get a chance to say a word to each other.
Be the Kind of Person Your soul mate Would Be Attracted To
Now that you have a really clear picture of your ideal soul mate, figure out what kind of person he'd be attracted to: What would she look like? What would she smell like, sound like, etc. What kinds of things would she be likely to do? What kinds of places would she be likely to go? If the man you're looking for is the kind of man who likes to go to the opera, and you're looking for him at the bowling alley, you're probably going to have a tough time finding him. On the other hand, it's important that you be yourself; if you really don't enjoy opera, don't force yourself to sit through La bohème in hopes of meeting Mr. Right; chances are your lack of enjoyment will be totally transparent to any opera fan, and if you don't like opera, chances also are that your Mr. Right doesn't like it any more than you do.
Open Your Mind As Well As Your Heart
There's an old Buddhist teaching that compares people to drops of water in an endless ocean; all of us feel ourselves as distinct, separate beings, yet on another level, we're all connected and part of something vastly bigger than ourselves. It's easy to feel that finding a particular drop of water in an endless ocean is an impossible task (like finding a needle in a haystack, only a gazillion times worse), but there are people who have a higher-level view of the ocean than we do, and they're able to see connections between the water drops more clearly than we can.
I'd like to share 3 different techniques for finding love and knowing your soul mate when you find them. I've seen these techniques work over and over again, and if you're skeptical, just keep an open mind and give them a try: you've got nothing to lose if they don't work, and everything to gain if they do.
Visualize Your soul mate, Down to the Smallest Detail
What does he look like? What does he smell like? What does he feel like? Sound like? Taste like? It may seem a little "out there" to try to visualize what somebody smells like or tastes like, but the truth is, all of us have our own distinctive smells, sounds, and tastes that set us apart from everybody else, and in the scale of human history, language is a relatively recent form of communication: for thousands of years before there was spoken and written language, there was the unwritten communication of the 5 senses (sight, smell, touch, hearing, and taste). It only makes sense (no pun intended) that these non-verbal cues still carry a lot of weight. And the more detail you put into your mental picture, the more likely you are to recognize your soul mate when you meet him, even if you don't get a chance to say a word to each other.
Be the Kind of Person Your soul mate Would Be Attracted To
Now that you have a really clear picture of your ideal soul mate, figure out what kind of person he'd be attracted to: What would she look like? What would she smell like, sound like, etc. What kinds of things would she be likely to do? What kinds of places would she be likely to go? If the man you're looking for is the kind of man who likes to go to the opera, and you're looking for him at the bowling alley, you're probably going to have a tough time finding him. On the other hand, it's important that you be yourself; if you really don't enjoy opera, don't force yourself to sit through La bohème in hopes of meeting Mr. Right; chances are your lack of enjoyment will be totally transparent to any opera fan, and if you don't like opera, chances also are that your Mr. Right doesn't like it any more than you do.
Open Your Mind As Well As Your Heart
There's an old Buddhist teaching that compares people to drops of water in an endless ocean; all of us feel ourselves as distinct, separate beings, yet on another level, we're all connected and part of something vastly bigger than ourselves. It's easy to feel that finding a particular drop of water in an endless ocean is an impossible task (like finding a needle in a haystack, only a gazillion times worse), but there are people who have a higher-level view of the ocean than we do, and they're able to see connections between the water drops more clearly than we can.